22-year-old forces injured 19-year-old roommate to do her laundry for her, freaks out when her roommate has her boyfriend do the laundry: 'He should've waited for Lily's ankle to feel better.'

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Emmy Pratt • Writer and Editor
Jun 8, 2026 12:30 PM EDT

Why is it her roommate's responsibility to do her laundry? 

Are you comfortable with other people touching your clothes? I don't really have a complex about other people briefly touching my clothing, especially when I'm at fault. When I was in college, people would take other people's laundry out of the dryer if it had been sitting there for too long, and they needed to use the machine. Heck, people would even take other people's clothing out of the dryer immediately after it was done, because they didn't want to wait. That can be kind of annoying, especially if you come to take your clothes out of the dryer as some random is doing it for you, but sometimes it is necessary. If you only have one washer and dryer in your building, you can't sit around all day waiting for your downstairs neighbor to take their laundry out of the washing machine. They've got to learn somehow! 

My roommates and I often finish each other's laundry if one of us has to leave the apartment before our cycle ends, and that works well for us. Nobody gets mad if they have to take someone else's load out of the dryer and put it on the kitchen table, because everyone leaves their clean clothes in the dryer every once in a while. 

There is a difference between moving someone's laundry out of the way so you can use the laundry machines and making your roommate do your laundry for you. The woman in this story expects her 19-year-old roommate to do her laundry, even after she has helped her pay her rent multiple times. How entitled can you get? 

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  • A young boyfriend does his girlfriend's roommate's laundry without realizing she's incredibly uncomfortable with him touching her clothes.
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    A young boyfriend does his girlfriend's roommate's laundry without realizing she's incredibly uncomfortable with him touching her clothes. 

  • Am I the bad guy for telling off my roommate about her boyfriend's unacceptable behavior?

    Okay so me (F22) and my roommate (F19) have lived together for a year and oh my god beyond this she is the perfect roommate, best I could've asked for. Let's call her
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  • Lily. When we moved in together everything lined up and has since. She is respectful of everything, never missed rent (and has actually covered mine
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  • twice), has come up with all the systems that make this flow, she's clean about her space and will clean the community space, she's on food stamps and uses it for
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  • groceries and nothing dumb, she's good at budgeting the household, she cooks amazing food for the both of us and considers my tastes before she tries to make
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  • something new (breakfast and dinner) - she often even makes my lunches, on my birthday she threw a small surprise party because she knows I like a lowkey celebration and
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  • A helpful, 19-year-old roommate prepares a birthday cake for her 22-year-old roommate's birthday, proving that she's one of the best people you could possibly have as a roommate.
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    A helpful, 19-year-old roommate prepares a birthday cake for her 22-year-old roommate's birthday, proving that she's one of the best people you could possibly have as a roommate. 

  • made the cake from scratch (it was amazing btw). She works really hard and I appreciate her a lot. Her flaws are mainly her mental illnesses, she has
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  • bad generalized anxiety and minor depre son, c- ptsd, and chronic pain in her ankle. She's medicated for all of it and is in therapy it so it's well managed.
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  • Now to her boyfriend, he's okay, he comes over and helps Lily with all the stuff she does especially when her flaws are acting up which is fine and makes him a good
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  • boyfriend but recently, he has overstepped a boundary. Lily said she'd do the laundry this week but suddenly her ankle flared up really bad and she could barely walk so
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  • her boyfriend came over to take care of her and do the stuff she normally does for her. The behavior: he did the laundry. My laundry
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  • Lily wraps her injured ankles, which hurt so badly that she cannot do her usual household chores, which, for some reason, include her roommates' laundry.
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    Lily wraps her injured ankles, which hurt so badly that she cannot do her usual household chores, which, for some reason, include her roommates' laundry. 

  • included, my laundry has my underwear and bras in it. I thought it was entirely inappropriate of him to actually do it, he should've waited for Lily's ankle to feel better so she
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  • could do it because I trust her with my laundry not him. He nor she asked me about it, I found out because I caught him taking it from the dryer when I came home. He
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  • didn't even see an issue with it and explained that Lily was napping because her pain was "too much to bear while awake" so he did it.
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  • He asked if I wanted to sort it because he knows I have stuff in it. I got so mad at him, I yelled at him that he was out of line and needed to leave immediately. He isn't one
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  • for conflict so while he tried to "defend" (make excuses) himself and tried to use taking care of Lily as a reason that this was somehow okay. Despite that he still left and
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  • apologized but I think it's also on Lily as she didn't even stop him from doing that. She woke up after he left and when she saw me she asked me where he was
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  • and my anger flared up again and I yelled at her about it, how it was inappropriate, r de, and predatory of him to do that and her not stopping him. She started crying
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  • and went back into her room. My friends are calling me the ah le when I explained it but I think I'm pretty justified here but am I the a hole and just not seeing it?
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  • Inevitable-Level-687 I HATE it when people touch my stuff, but that's why I do my own laundry! And OP is just making their roommate do it... oh, wait, I forgot, they're kindly waiting for her to feel better first. ☺
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  • TheHistoryMuse I can't imagine being angry anyone was willing to do my laundry.
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  • CityofOrphans Sounds like the dude has an amazing girlfriend already, why would he take a downgrade? This person is delusional
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  • matthewsmugmanager ΥΤΑ A man doing your laundry is PREDATORY? Girl. Get a grip.
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